Is It GAY Marriages Or Civil Unions?

February 21-2007:

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Is It GAY Marriages Or Civil Unions?

I have heard arguments from all areas, (for and against) marriage between two men. Whether or not the word 'marriage' should be used, bothers me greatly.
The heterosexuals feel that word is SACRED to them, from a historical stand point. This is based on their religious beliefs primarily. So any violation of this understanding by any same gender loving, or same gender unions, must take this reality into consideration. If they are going to make any headway towards legislative action, or legal acceptance.

I would prefer that Gay men or Homosexuals who require this civil right, to use the words 'Civil Unions.' This to my mind will help pave the way for an explanation as to the pros and cons of this preferred union, to be made legally binding!

Black Homosexuals/Gay Men's Position:

Most DL Black, Latino, Gay, and Homosexual men seem not too keen on publicly advocating for any legalization of their bedroom business, as some usually frame it.

Firstly, Black American and Latino men do not (in great numbers) identify as Gay or Homosexual. If you ask most of these men how they categorize themselves socially, sexually, or as a community. Most will say openly 'Heterosexual,' and some quietly 'bisexual And advocating for legal Civil or Marriage legislation is never going to happen in large numbers within these two communities ever!

Black & Latino men are quite comfortable with having several women for show, having children with some of them, to show society that they are men or macho.

But actually living with another man, under the same roof as a couple, is unheard of for most of these men. And will never be contemplated! Most are quite comfortable living with their parents, relatives, or not being committed to any one man or woman. This is a cultural reality here in the USA.
Until we come to terms with this reality, Gay White men, will always be the ones that will spearhead any advocacy, for making Gay unions legal in America.

Derryck S. Griffith.
Educator-Advocate & Blogger.

SUGGESTED SOLUTION:

The proposal for Gay Marriages may never be totally accepted by mainstream American heterosexuals.

Why not use Gay UNIONS instead.

That term may be more likely to be accepted. It does not fly in the faces of the traditional concept of heterosexual arrangements/marriages.
I think that is the way to go with this issue.

Derryck